Three Ways to Give Yourself What You Need

or how to nourish your soul

enjoy the little things

Here we are at the end of January. This is the week when all of our plans for ourselves in the new year have either become an ingrained habit, or they have fallen apart. I hope they have become a habit for you.

Either way, this is a good time to check in with yourself.

Are you doing the things that make you happy?

Are you giving yourself time each week to develop the YOU that has taken the back burner on your life for so long? You know the one; she likes to dance, and laugh, and love with passion. Yes! Her! She wants to come to the forefront.

What does she need from you? (more…)

Why I Don’t Do Resolutions


Here is why I’m not making New Year’s Resolutions:

Every year we start off thinking January gives us a clean slate for a new beginning. So we consider all the things we’ve wanted to do, or be, and we make a list.

This year I will finally lose weight!

This is the year I will make a million!

This year will be different, we tell ourselves. But is it? Really?

This week might be different because we are thinking differently. But how long does that last? Are we really making changes?

A few years ago I stopped making resolutions. Especially that one about (more…)

What if we do 2016 differently?

January quote

Happy New Year!

2015 was a pretty good year. Many great things happened; we took lots of fun trips, survived a deployment, and had great times with family. I also started writing again, for me, and I’ve revamped my life a bit so I can concentrate on the things that are really important to me.

But as I was pondering the coming of the new year, I began thinking…

What if this year, we didn’t believe those things that have held us prisoner in our minds. Like the words that make us feel less than. Or not good enough. Or not pretty enough. What if instead, we embraced who we are. And knew that we are good enough. And pretty enough. And lovely enough.

What if this year, we said no to (more…)

It’s Still Christmas

You can carry it in your heart!

Just because today is December 26 doesn’t mean that Christmas is over. Christmas is something you hold in your heart. And (spoiler alert) as Mr. Scrooge taught us, it is something that can be celebrated each day throughout the year.



Happy Christmas!

I wish you love. Love that is unconditional and so fulfilling.

I wish you peace. Peace that passes all understanding.

I wish you friendship. The kind of friendship that outlasts the days and the miles that separate you.

I wish you grace. Grace for others, but most especially for yourself.

I wish you kindness. Kindness from strangers, and kindness coming from your heart.

I wish you gentleness. Gentleness in dealing with the hurting people around you.

I wish you joy. The kind of joy that overcomes.

Today may your day be merry and bright. And may you be surrounded by those you love.

All my best,


Making my Life a Vacation

or bringing the principles of Disney home


Last week my family and I went to Walt Disney World for the trip of a lifetime. We had such a wonderful time! The weather was perfect, there weren’t too many crowds, but we were all a little sad when it was time to leave. I may or may not have cried a little as we headed to the airport.

My guys were a little confused by my longing to stay instead of going home. But really, who wouldn’t want to stay?! At Disney World I was treated like a princess. Everything was taken care of for me, and everyone just wanted me to have fun. I didn’t have to cook, or clean, or do laundry. I didn’t even have to drive anyone anywhere! If I wanted something, I only had to ask and the cast members would do everything they could to make it happen.

Compare that to my house (more…)

The Gift from the Heart

a parable

Here is a short story as my Christmas gift to you!

graphic stock photos

There was a man who had everything. There was not a thing in the world that he didn’t have. He owned land, animals, houses, and businesses. He had people who cooked for him, served him, and worked for him. If there was something he wanted, he could get it. If he wanted something to happen, it would.

This man was very wonderful to be around. He was kind, loving, and generous. When people needed food, he provided it. If they wanted water, he delivered it. If they wanted to talk, he would listen. Everyone in this man’s presence loved to be near him. They wanted to do whatever he said because they knew his decisions were good.

One day this man had a party and invited everyone he knew. At the party he had the finest food and the best drinks. He gave many gifts to his guests, and the guests were grateful.

Some guests wanted to keep their gifts from him and leave the party, so they did. And the man was sad, but he let them go their way.

Some guests wanted to give the man gifts in return, so they tried.

“I will volunteer my time in return for the gift,” one guest said. (more…)


they either comfort you or stress you out


This year (next week, in fact) we are taking a family trip to Disney World as an early Christmas and a “Yay we survived deployment” trip. As a result of this big trip, the rest of our Christmas celebration is going to be pretty meager this year.

So I started thinking; if Christmas this year is not about the gifts, and if it is just the three of us in my little family, what will make it special? How will we know that Christmas day is not just another day that we don’t have to go to work?

That’s where traditions come in. Traditions are an important part of our family holidays. They help create a sense of specialness and they serve as an avenue for creating lasting memories for us and our son.

The traditions we have developed as a family are a blend (more…)

Family First

(why this is my last Thursday post)

family first

This is my last Thursday post.

My son and I skipped math tutoring today and had a long talk in the coffee shop instead. It was a good talk. I’m glad we did it.

You all know that I’ve been seeking more balance in my life, and in my searching, I have realized that my son and my family need me right now–more than I thought they did.

So I need to free up a little bit of time to be the kind of mom I want to be for my son.

I heard a great parenting tip one time. A long-time friend told me that when your child becomes a teenager, they start repeating the behaviors and patterns they had when they were 10 years younger. So when your child is 13, they act the way they did when they were three. When they are fifteen, they act how they did when they were five.

When your kid is five you help him navigate as his world gets a little bigger. When he is 15 you do the same because his world is definitely getting bigger. My son needs me to help him, and I need to have the time to do it.

So, this will be my last Thursday post for a while. At least through the holidays. Maybe longer.

I will still post on Saturday mornings so you can have a leisurely cup of coffee with me when you read the blog with your weekend breakfast. I am enjoying getting back in touch with the writer in me, so you will also be seeing more books from me in the coming year.

And if you still want to hear from me two days a week, sign up to get my Weekly Thoughts. They are delivered to your email on Fridays. In them I share what I’ve been thinking about, as well as links to things I’ve been writing. You can sign up for them right here, and you will get your first email this Friday!

So let’s get together on Saturdays and talk about this  awakening journey of midlife. I look forward to seeing you then!

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Happy Thanksgiving

happy thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving from my home to yours… Now turn off your screens and go make some memories with your family. It’s all about your experiences so go have them and we will meet up again on Saturday.

Many blessings,


Why are you still reading? You’re missing your life!

; )

In The Eye of The Beholder

ugly one

How is it that I can let the unkind words of one insignificant person define me for so many years, but I won’t believe the uplifting words of friends or family?

A few years ago I was taking a class and I had an assignment to write about something very emotional. After some struggle with the assignment, I just started free writing. And that’s when I learned that a sentence uttered by a dumb teenage boy when I was 13 defined how I felt about myself for most of my life.

When I was in middle school, I had this great group of friends with whom I would go out on the weekends. This was in the 80s, so we would go to “downtown” Stateline, Nevada and hang out in the video arcade hoping to meet some cute boys.

One time, we met three boys who wanted to hang out with us. But there were only three of them to our four. So one of the boys said, “We’ll go with you, you, and you,” pointing to my friends, “but not the ugly one,” he said while pointing to me. (more…)