I posted this week about seeking answers for why I’m having a hard time “waking up” into this new thing I want to create. I am wondering why 1) I keep seeing stories in my email, magazines and news feeds about getting unstuck and, 2) if there is any correlation to my inability to wake up in the mornings.
Thursday, I talked about four things that came into my view over the last week.
Well, I am notorious for gathering information through books, articles, podcasts, etc, but never really applying the lessons or the help to my life. So in the hopes of starting a new, positive habit to get me where I want to go, today I’d like to start looking at those ideas one at a time and see how I can apply the concept to my current situation.
What’s my situation? (more…)
I have a hard time waking up in the morning. My brain is foggy, and I usually don’t feel refreshed after my night of fitful sleep. As I was struggling to get up yet again this week, I began to wonder; does my trouble waking up in the mornings have any correlation to my trouble waking up from my unfocused, haphazard, unbalanced life?
I am having those same kinds of struggles in my life that I have in my morning. My goals are foggy, and I don’t feel accomplished after a day of working on them. I feel like I am not really making any progress toward having the kind of life I want to have, because I can’t get away from living the over-busy and overwhelmed life I’ve been living for the past 12 years.
I want an awakening! I want to do things differently so my life can be better. More fulfilling. More balanced. More rewarding. But I am having a hard time coming out of the darkness of what was. Each week I have great plans to do great things towards accomplishing my new goals, but I’m getting overwhelmed with the old things that are still overflowing into the new I want to create!
As if to answer my frustrations, (more…)
Here’s a preview of a page from my booklet: 8 Ways to Reconnect with You, available as a download for you on this site. In honor of Halloween coming in two weeks, I am sharing with you:
Number 7-Scare Yourself!
Here is what it says:
My schedule didn’t allow me to go to my class reunion this year. I was very sad to miss it because I was looking forward to connecting with the people I grew up with. Of course they posted pictures on Facebook, so I got an inkling of what happened. And when I saw they were doing Karaoke, I was secretly (more…)
Because I’m a wordsmith, I notice how people say or write things. And lately I’ve noticed a formula that online promoted materials (and even un-promoted materials) have been using. And the formula must be working because I see more and more of these kinds of headlines online. I know you’ve seen them too.
They start off with a description of some action that is happening in a video or photo like:
This elephant sees the ocean for the first time… (more…)
As I’m working on this journey of reawakening in my midlife, I’m amazed at how easily I can slip back into old habits.
I have a lot of great ideas about how to change my life for the better. I can plan what I want to accomplish each week, I can spend more time in prayer each day, I can exercise consistently and do something every day that fulfills me.
And I can do it…for about three days.
And then those old habits sneak back up. I forget (more…)
As I wrote last week, today is the day that my sister left us last year. I’ve been encouraged by the texts and messages I’ve received from my friends, and Deborah’s friends. And today I remain reflective about what Deborah meant to me and how she affected my life.
But today, instead of grieving I choose to remember Deborah’s life; a life of love, and service, and mercy, and generosity. I choose to celebrate her impact on us instead of mourning her loss. I feel like when I think about the positive impact she has had on our family and even try to emulate it, then I can honor her in a better way than I can by just missing her.
During the past year, whenever my family members and I talk about Deborah, we share stories about her humor, her laughter, and her generosity. We talked about how she loved fiercely. And in talking about how she lived, we are inspired to live better lives because of her. (more…)
I saw an article on Yahoo! News last month that really opened my eyes to how I think about myself. Well, that’s not entirely correct; I know how I think of myself–and it’s usually not very positive. (I’ll go into that another time). But I realized as I looked at that article, that I’m not alone in having a low self-image or a poor body image.
I’ve realized that we all stand in front of the mirror and see flaws in ourselves. Even someone like Sophia Vergara who is a very beautiful woman. The Yahoo! News article I read reported that she told The Daily Mirror (the UK tabloid), “…sometimes I look in the mirror
September isn’t a great month for me. It used to be…I’ve always loved how the weather starts to change. I’ve loved the back to school sales and buying new notebooks/journals that are filled with blank pages just waiting to be filled up. I’ve loved how the trees start changing colors and how home starts feeling homier in the evenings as the sun starts setting earlier.
I still love those things, but September is now filled with reminders of dreams dashed, lives changed, and hearts broken. September is the time when I remember my first-born son’s short life. And since 2001, it’s the time I remember how my own life was so affected and changed on 9/11. And now, it’s also the time I remember how much I miss my sister who left us too soon last year.
I had a long conversation with my niece last week. She is in her first year of college and trying to determine which things are a good fit so she can build her future. We talked about how she is at a place in her life where the past is behind her, and her future is a blank slate. Even though blank slates can be overwhelming, they can also be empowering.
But then she said something that really made me think. Something that I think we all feel. And something that applies to this stage of my life as much as it applies to hers.
“If I try this and don’t like it, what do I do? I don’t want to be a quitter,” she said. “My mom and dad always told me not to quit.”
My niece and I have similar situations, even though we are separated by many decades. She is looking towards her future and making decisions that will shape the rest of her life. While I am at a different crossroads, I am still looking towards my future because it is changing. In a few years, I will no longer have kids in my house and my husband will be retiring from his “first career”, so my future is just as blank and unsure as my niece’s future.
So as I try to get back in touch with myself, I have to wonder:
Have you forgotten how to love and nurture yourself?
This guide, which is my gift to you, will help you remember!
As women, we generally spend most of our time taking care of other people; our co-workers, our bosses, our spouse, our clients, our pets, our kids, our friends…doing things for them, or the things they want us to do, because we love them. And life continues rolling along while you bring joy to those around you.
Until that one day… (more…)