Three Ways to Give Yourself What You Need

or how to nourish your soul

enjoy the little things

Here we are at the end of January. This is the week when all of our plans for ourselves in the new year have either become an ingrained habit, or they have fallen apart. I hope they have become a habit for you.

Either way, this is a good time to check in with yourself.

Are you doing the things that make you happy?

Are you giving yourself time each week to develop the YOU that has taken the back burner on your life for so long? You know the one; she likes to dance, and laugh, and love with passion. Yes! Her! She wants to come to the forefront.

What does she need from you? (more…)

What if we do 2016 differently?

January quote

Happy New Year!

2015 was a pretty good year. Many great things happened; we took lots of fun trips, survived a deployment, and had great times with family. I also started writing again, for me, and I’ve revamped my life a bit so I can concentrate on the things that are really important to me.

But as I was pondering the coming of the new year, I began thinking…

What if this year, we didn’t believe those things that have held us prisoner in our minds. Like the words that make us feel less than. Or not good enough. Or not pretty enough. What if instead, we embraced who we are. And knew that we are good enough. And pretty enough. And lovely enough.

What if this year, we said no to (more…)

It’s Still Christmas

You can carry it in your heart!

Just because today is December 26 doesn’t mean that Christmas is over. Christmas is something you hold in your heart. And (spoiler alert) as Mr. Scrooge taught us, it is something that can be celebrated each day throughout the year.

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So…

Happy Christmas!

I wish you love. Love that is unconditional and so fulfilling.

I wish you peace. Peace that passes all understanding.

I wish you friendship. The kind of friendship that outlasts the days and the miles that separate you.

I wish you grace. Grace for others, but most especially for yourself.

I wish you kindness. Kindness from strangers, and kindness coming from your heart.

I wish you gentleness. Gentleness in dealing with the hurting people around you.

I wish you joy. The kind of joy that overcomes.

Today may your day be merry and bright. And may you be surrounded by those you love.

All my best,

Alane

The Gift from the Heart

a parable

Here is a short story as my Christmas gift to you!

graphic stock photos

There was a man who had everything. There was not a thing in the world that he didn’t have. He owned land, animals, houses, and businesses. He had people who cooked for him, served him, and worked for him. If there was something he wanted, he could get it. If he wanted something to happen, it would.

This man was very wonderful to be around. He was kind, loving, and generous. When people needed food, he provided it. If they wanted water, he delivered it. If they wanted to talk, he would listen. Everyone in this man’s presence loved to be near him. They wanted to do whatever he said because they knew his decisions were good.

One day this man had a party and invited everyone he knew. At the party he had the finest food and the best drinks. He gave many gifts to his guests, and the guests were grateful.

Some guests wanted to keep their gifts from him and leave the party, so they did. And the man was sad, but he let them go their way.

Some guests wanted to give the man gifts in return, so they tried.

“I will volunteer my time in return for the gift,” one guest said. (more…)

Traditions!

they either comfort you or stress you out

christmas-traditions

This year (next week, in fact) we are taking a family trip to Disney World as an early Christmas and a “Yay we survived deployment” trip. As a result of this big trip, the rest of our Christmas celebration is going to be pretty meager this year.

So I started thinking; if Christmas this year is not about the gifts, and if it is just the three of us in my little family, what will make it special? How will we know that Christmas day is not just another day that we don’t have to go to work?

That’s where traditions come in. Traditions are an important part of our family holidays. They help create a sense of specialness and they serve as an avenue for creating lasting memories for us and our son.

The traditions we have developed as a family are a blend (more…)

Happy Thanksgiving

happy thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving from my home to yours… Now turn off your screens and go make some memories with your family. It’s all about your experiences so go have them and we will meet up again on Saturday.

Many blessings,

Alane

Why are you still reading? You’re missing your life!

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How to Reach Your Deepest Emotions

(a Q&A about keeping a journal)

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There was a lot of great response to a Facebook post I shared about journaling. I had a quite a few people email me questions, so I thought maybe some of you might have similar thoughts. I decided to share one of my responses here because after I re-read it, I decided it was actually really good advice for anyone going on a journey of discovery about themselves.

So here it is: the Q & A about journaling.

Q.

I used to journal all the time but stopped because it felt too ‘dear diary’ ish. Can you share any ideas about how to dig a bit deeper when writing in a journal?

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Really journaling is (more…)

Finding Joy

(or my confessions of car dancing)

exuberant joy
I was driving to pick my son up from school (I know, many of my posts these days start with those words!). I was waiting at a light and I happened to look to my right when I saw a lady dancing in her car.

I love car dancing…expressing yourself through dance when your favorite jam comes on. I’m usually reserved though, keeping my movements small; in fact, I usually confine my car dancing to my shoulders with an occasional “raising the roof” with my hands. Thankfully my son is rather tolerant of this, and his only parameter for me is (more…)

Success. Will. Come.

(part five of a five-part series)

find successThis is the last post in my series about waking up to your life. I’ve spent the last two weeks talking about three of the four points that I felt “found” me because they wanted to be discovered by me. 

Today, we come to point four. Success Will Come.

In her post a few weeks back, Coach Melanie writes:

“Your success depends on your attitude and how you choose to react to your troubles. And yes, you always have a choice. Do you quit or do you keep plugging away? …Don’t give up before you get to the good stuff. If you work hard, if you persevere through the storm, success WILL come.” From LifeCoachingbyMelanie.com Hard Beginnings

This point came into my email a few weeks ago. Melanie is a great friend and an even better life coach! She often voices exactly what I’m thinking in her blog. (I encourage you to check her out–you’ll learn stuff from her as well!)

Anyway, as I re-read this post from Melanie, I started thinking about a story about a hike and a group of ladies I met in Colorado. (more…)

Wake Up and Work Hard

(post 3 of a 5-part series)

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“In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion. It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end. It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.” from GoForHealth.co 

Last week I was pondering some articles that came into view from my Facebook, magazines and email. It seemed like, without searching for them, I kept seeing advice about how to get unstuck. As if the world around me knew that I needed (more…)