I Will Not Be Bullied

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When I was young, my mother sat me down and had a talk with me about safety. She told me things like not to take rides from people I didn’t know and to let her look at my halloween candy so she could make sure nothing had been tampered with. Those were the biggest safety issues of our day. Those were times when I could play outside all day and my mother didn’t need to watch me. She knew I was okay. Those were the days when the biggest terror threat was someone who was tampering with Tylenol(r).

Within the last week I had to sit down with my son and have a similar talk about safety. But it was so very different. (more…)

How to Reach Your Deepest Emotions

(a Q&A about keeping a journal)

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There was a lot of great response to a Facebook post I shared about journaling. I had a quite a few people email me questions, so I thought maybe some of you might have similar thoughts. I decided to share one of my responses here because after I re-read it, I decided it was actually really good advice for anyone going on a journey of discovery about themselves.

So here it is: the Q & A about journaling.

Q.

I used to journal all the time but stopped because it felt too ‘dear diary’ ish. Can you share any ideas about how to dig a bit deeper when writing in a journal?

A.

Really journaling is (more…)

Finding Joy

(or my confessions of car dancing)

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I was driving to pick my son up from school (I know, many of my posts these days start with those words!). I was waiting at a light and I happened to look to my right when I saw a lady dancing in her car.

I love car dancing…expressing yourself through dance when your favorite jam comes on. I’m usually reserved though, keeping my movements small; in fact, I usually confine my car dancing to my shoulders with an occasional “raising the roof” with my hands. Thankfully my son is rather tolerant of this, and his only parameter for me is (more…)

My Part Time Job as an Uber Driver

(well, more like an Uber-mom driver)

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For someone who works from home, I sure do a lot of commuting!

Between taking my son to school (he goes to a magnet school so he doesn’t have neighborhood bus service) and picking him up each day, plus running to math tutoring and other misc. appointments a few times a week, I can easily spend 14 hours each week in the car, plus another five or six hours waiting for him to do the things he needs to do.

That’s like an additional part-time job!

I couldn’t figure out why I have not been able to get everything that I used to do done. It seems like I am always behind on dishes and laundry. I’m having a hard time fitting in a good workout, and I’m always doing my writing projects at odd hours because their deadlines are looming.

And I’m wondering why (more…)

Success. Will. Come.

(part five of a five-part series)

find successThis is the last post in my series about waking up to your life. I’ve spent the last two weeks talking about three of the four points that I felt “found” me because they wanted to be discovered by me. 

Today, we come to point four. Success Will Come.

In her post a few weeks back, Coach Melanie writes:

“Your success depends on your attitude and how you choose to react to your troubles. And yes, you always have a choice. Do you quit or do you keep plugging away? …Don’t give up before you get to the good stuff. If you work hard, if you persevere through the storm, success WILL come.” From LifeCoachingbyMelanie.com Hard Beginnings

This point came into my email a few weeks ago. Melanie is a great friend and an even better life coach! She often voices exactly what I’m thinking in her blog. (I encourage you to check her out–you’ll learn stuff from her as well!)

Anyway, as I re-read this post from Melanie, I started thinking about a story about a hike and a group of ladies I met in Colorado. (more…)

Wake Up and Stop It

(Post 4 of a 5-post series

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Continuing my series on waking up to the life I want, I’ve come to point three of the four points that found me regarding how to wake up and have a good morning (and therefore perhaps an unstuck life). That’s the goal anyway.

So here I am at three. I think it’s my favorite Create a Not To Do list or a Wait List. What a great concept! I am free to put something on a “Don’t Do This” list.

Here is a recap of the point.

3. Create a “Not-to-Do” List, or a “Wait-List”
From inc.com
7 Ways to have a Truly Great Morning

“You know the distractions you should be avoiding, the ones that consistently suck time and energy out of your day? To avoid getting sidetracked make a list of them and keep it on your desk. Paired with your to-do list, you now have a double dose of focus and prioritization.”

As an added bonus, my friend and coach, Sage Grayson (at SageGrayson.com), has a great worksheet for figuring out what she calls a wait list–these (more…)

Wake Up and Work Hard

(post 3 of a 5-part series)

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“In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion. It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end. It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.” from GoForHealth.co 

Last week I was pondering some articles that came into view from my Facebook, magazines and email. It seemed like, without searching for them, I kept seeing advice about how to get unstuck. As if the world around me knew that I needed (more…)

Wake Up–It’s A Brand New Day!

(post 2 of 5)

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I posted this week about seeking answers for why I’m having a hard time “waking up” into this new thing I want to create. I am wondering why 1) I keep seeing stories in my email, magazines and news feeds about getting unstuck and, 2) if there is any correlation to my inability to wake up in the mornings.

Thursday, I talked about four things that came into my view over the last week.

Well, I am notorious for gathering information through books, articles, podcasts, etc, but never really applying the lessons or the help to my life. So in the hopes of starting a new, positive habit to get me where I want to go, today I’d like to start looking at those ideas one at a time and see how I can apply the concept to my current situation.

What’s my situation? (more…)

4 Ways to Wake Up to Your Life

(Post one of five)

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I have a hard time waking up in the morning. My brain is foggy, and I usually don’t feel refreshed after my night of fitful sleep. As I was struggling to get up yet again this week, I began to wonder; does my trouble waking up in the mornings have any correlation to my trouble waking up from my unfocused, haphazard, unbalanced life?

I am having those same kinds of struggles in my life that I have in my morning. My goals are foggy, and I don’t feel accomplished after a day of working on them. I feel like I am not really making any progress toward having the kind of life I want to have, because I can’t get away from living the over-busy and overwhelmed life I’ve been living for the past 12 years.

I want an awakening! I want to do things differently so my life can be better. More fulfilling. More balanced. More rewarding. But I am having a hard time coming out of the darkness of what was. Each week I have great plans to do great things towards accomplishing my new goals, but I’m getting overwhelmed with the old things that are still overflowing into the new I want to create!

As if to answer my frustrations, (more…)

The Best Reason to Scare Yourself

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Here’s a preview of a page from my booklet: 8 Ways to Reconnect with You, available as a download for you on this site. In honor of Halloween coming in two weeks, I am sharing with you:

Number 7-Scare Yourself!

 

Here is what it says:

My schedule didn’t allow me to go to my class reunion this year. I was very sad to miss it because I was looking forward to connecting with the people I grew up with. Of course they posted pictures on Facebook, so I got an inkling of what happened. And when I saw they were doing Karaoke, I was secretly (more…)