“In life, patience is not about waiting; it’s the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard on your dreams, knowing that the work is worth it. So if you’re going to try, put in the time and go all the way. Otherwise, there’s no point in starting. This could mean losing stability and comfort for a while, and maybe even your mind on occasion. It could mean not eating what, or sleeping where, you’re used to, for weeks on end. It could mean stretching your comfort zone so thin it gives you a nonstop case of the chills. It could mean sacrificing relationships and all that’s familiar. It could mean accepting ridicule from your peers. It could mean lots of time alone in solitude. Solitude, though, is the gift that makes great things possible. It gives you the space you need. Everything else is a test of your determination, of how much you really want it.” from GoForHealth.co
Last week I was pondering some articles that came into view from my Facebook, magazines and email. It seemed like, without searching for them, I kept seeing advice about how to get unstuck. As if the world around me knew that I needed little push to remind myself how to overcome. Last Thursday I shared four points. Today, I am looking more deeply into the second point; Every Struggle is a Little Step Forward. This point (and the quote above) is from an article from GoForHealth.co called, 8 Things to Remember when Things are Going Wrong.
This article made me think about my dad. He always told me that anything important was worth working hard for, and that hard work had its rewards. I saw both my mom and dad work hard for a lot of things in life.
My father didn’t get to graduate from high school. But he never used that as an excuse. He never wanted less for himself (or his family). He never “just settled” for what life gave him. Instead of living life as “less than,” he worked hard to become successful; every step he took, even through the struggles, was a step toward the life he wanted.
He apprenticed for a plumbing contractor. Then he earned his license. Then he bought the business. Then he made a name for himself and his business.
He often sacrificed. He worked long hours. He went in at night and on weekends when emergencies needed his attention. But we never felt like he neglected us. He was able to work from home many days, and he always sat down to dinner with the family.
I don’t ever remember hearing him complain that life and work was hard. I always remember him saying the hard work was life. And life was good.
My dad is my inspiration. His example of hard work with a good attitude made each of his three girls women who worked hard. We never expected handouts from life. We knew that if we did the hard work we would get our rewards.
I’m glad the article above reminded me about my dad and all the things I’ve learned from him. Because of this lesson this week, I know that I will persevere. And I know that the work I put in, whether it is hard or easy, will be worth it.
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a rut? Facing a challenging situation? Remember you don’t have to let that define you. My dad defined his life by what he could do, rather than what he couldn’t do. You and I need to define our lives that way too.
How can you re-position something that didn’t go well and use it as a springboard to redefine who you are? Share your thoughts in the comments below.